If you make a mistake, it's important to own up to it. If your mistake affects people other than yourself, you naturally will want to say "I'm so sorry." Don't. It's old and played out.
Say "Thank You" instead. People appreciate that way more.
To keep it simple, saying sorry is telling the other person something about yourself. If you are sorry, that doesn't address your awareness of your mistake. That just tells the listener that you are lame. The definitions of sorry includes these words: Regret, pity, deplorable, grieved, & sad. Don't bring those negative vibes into a conversation, especially one about yourself, that YOU start.
Instead show gratitude. Late? Thank the people waiting for you at brunch for being super chill. Taking up too much space? Thank the person next to you for being patient. Flaky? Don't say you are sorry that you are flaky; that is lame and no one can do anything with that information. Instead thank the person you are flaking on all of the time for being such a good friend or associate. Tell them you suck and tell them you appreciate them dealing with your jerky characteristic.
There is really nothing more to it. Here are the top reasons why/how replacing "sorry" with "thank you" is very dope to practice.
1. you bring more natural gratitude in your life
Saying "I appreciate" or "I'm grateful" makes it rub off on you.
2. saying that you made a mistake is more efficient than saying you are "sorry"
Remove emotion, and add a level of focus to your problem-solving routines.
3. people will feel better about themselves for dealing with you
Give someone love for having incredible qualities as a person builds confidence.
4. you cut closer to the core of any problem
Say what you did, and acknowledge it sucks. Trust me you will avoid it next time.
5. you keep better control of your emotions in social situations
Separating facts from feelings makes it easier for everyone to move on.
Do you agree? Has this worked for you? Is there a situation this wouldn't work? Comment below!
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